31 May How To Become The Person You Want To Be
The first Creative Rebels blog that I wrote was about New Years Resolutions. We’re six months into the year now and apparently, 80% of new resolutions are failed by mid-February (I just Googled it). A lot of people think their traits are fixed and they say things like “I couldn’t help myself”. The world would be a scary place if nobody was able to learn or grow. There are studies that show that change is definitely possible. You’ll find a million stories online about those that have gone from introvert to gregarious ‘people person’ or those who have conquered an unhealthy relationship with food. It’s not easy to change but it’s definitely possible.
When it comes to extreme cases, like people who are scared to leave the house or someone addicted to video games, there’s usually a breaking point where a change is totally necessary. For most of us though; we’re doing okay and sure we’d, *like* to learn Spanish, but we can put our mind at rest by knowing that the option is always there and we’ll do it on some unspecified future date. Even with things like resolutions, where we make promises to ourselves and big decisions on our direction, the stats show how little these plans come to fruition. So how do we make a change?
Work Out What You Want
Most people don’t actually know what they want. We’re not taught about goal-setting in school and most of us follow the well-worn paths of those that have gone before us. When you’ve worked out exactly what you want to accomplish you can work out how to achieve it. My probably controversial opinion is that people really only ever do what they want. At the end of the day, anything can be learnt, it comes down to desire if you’ll actually take the time to learn it. Until you really want something bad enough you won’t achieve it.
Change Your Top Five
We talk about it on the podcast all the time; you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with (credit; Jim Rohn). If nothing changes then nothing changes. Assess your closest friends and if they are not pushing you forward; try and surround yourself with people who are. It’s hard to go at anything alone, a support system of friends who are learners will help you develop new more successful habits.
Consistently Remind Yourself
I’m not saying tattoo yourself, although that could work (I did briefly consider getting DRAW MORE across my knuckles) but don’t forget what you’re building. In the same way your friends mould you, I also believe that you’re the sum of the content you consume (credit: me). I was able to sustain big changes when I started listening to podcasts on my downtime. Listening to Gary Vee, Tim Ferriss, Tom Bilyeu and obvs Creative Rebels on a daily basis will consistently reaffirm in your own mind that you’re on a journey and you’re taking steps to make things happen. What you think about every day makes you the person that you are.
Make Things Happen
If we are all shaped by our experiences and we are the sum of everything that has happened to us up to this point, we can make sure that all our new experiences develop us into the person that we want to be. This is the easiest way to change everything, and it’s so simple that it almost feels like cheating. Use the internet, join communities, find out where people are creating cool stuff and get involved, or start your own thing. It may be out of your comfort zone in the beginning, but the people you meet will change your life.